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Hi there! I’m Rachel

I’m the founder of Magnificent Midlife and the Mutton Club and I’m so glad you’ve found us.

We’re all about challenging stereotypes of older women, changing perceptions and transforming midlife and beyond into a time of excitement and fulfillment. (This is me looking excited!) In our youth-obsessed culture, midlife can be a time of great uncertainty and questioning for many women.

We’re turning around the UK saying, ‘Mutton dressed as lamb’ criticising a woman who tries hard to look younger than she is. I want us to be proud to be mutton, to have arrived, to recognise our experience and wisdom.

We’re here to support and empower women, and show the world we’re not going to be marginalised as we age!

Paraphrasing Ashton Applewhite, I refuse to accept that this older version of me is, or will ever be, inferior to the younger model I once was! I’m getting better as I age, maturing like a fine red wine.

If you’d like to read more about my early menopause journey and watch some cool videos about my passion for magnificent midlife check out the About page.

Does this sound like you?

  • I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next? Where do I fit in? What’s my role now?
  • My… career is flat/parents need care/kids are (nearly) gone/life purpose is  – what life purpose? I’m feeling lost in the middle!
  • I have so much to offer but the world seems to be writing me off.
  • I’m suffering with menopause symptoms but no one talks about it and I don’t know where to get help.

That’s how I felt

For a long time I was plagued with self-doubt. I had this nagging feeling I was supposed to be doing something else, but what? I read some books and did some courses and began to re-evaluate what was important to me and what no longer was.   I began to think more pro-actively about managing my life rather than just letting it happen to me. I began to trust my gut and to explore new ideas I would once have dismissed as self-indulgent or just plain bonkers.

And that’s how Magnificent Midlife and the Mutton Club were born –  to create a community for all women, that acknowledges our differences but celebrates what we all have in common. One that provides inspiration and information to help us transition through menopause and from one half of our lives to the next. A virtual flock that provides support and encouragement. So our sheep imagery is not about following blindly, but about the strength that comes when The Flock has your back.

Why not listen to my Magnificent Midlife Podcast: Celebrating women in midlife and beyond, challenging the status quo and bashing negative stereotypes about being a bit older. Over the hill? On a downward slope? Nope, we get better with age not worse. I talk all things midlife, sharing fabulous stories of magnificent women doing very cool stuff. Now’s our time!

Listen on Apple Podcasts/ iTunes or on Podbean for android,  on Spotify or any good podcast app.

If you really want to take life up a notch, check out our private membership Magnificent Midlife. That’s where you’ll get the strategies, support and connection to really make midlife magnificent. Because life’s too short to get stuck in the middle, right!

If you’d like to support our work, but aren’t ready for our paid Members Club, please consider becoming our Patron for as little as $2 per month.

Become a Patron!


What do you need help with or inspiration for?

We have all sorts of information on the Mutton Club. If you’re new, (which you probably are, as you’re here!) you’ll find links to some of our most popular and useful posts below:


Jen LehnerMidlife reinventioninspiring stories from regular but also extraordinary women who’ve changed their and or other people’s lives



thriving through the menopauseMenopause helpyoga for menopause, keeping you sexy, alcohol and the menopause, how to thrive through it, food for menopause symptoms, Ultimate Natural Menopause Relief Checklist



how to be a good mother-in-lawRelationshipsgreat sex in midlife, how to get the best orgasm, amicable divorce, how to be a good mother-in-law



parental careCaring for parentsparents and alzheimer’s, care optionsbest to plan ahead, lasting power of attorney



keeping teens safe onlineDigital life – teens and sexting, protecting digital assets, the ULTIMATE guide to keeping teens safe online



pensionMoneywhat not to do with your pension pot, sorting out your willthe midlife paygap



FGMWomen’s issues – ovarian cancer, women on boards, FGM, life after breast cancerviolence against women especially the Yazidis



IMG_2821Travel inspirationMyanmar, USA roadtrip, Iceland, Kenyan safari, Cuba, Jordan desert trek



IMG_4001End of lifemaking a will, how to avoid funeral disputes, what to do when someone dies, planning your mom’s funeral with your mom



Have a dig around in our category pages – there’s lots of cool stuff there. If you’d like to know about our favorite online resources and what we use to make the Mutton Club tick, check out Cool Tools.

One thing we don’t cover much is fashion for midlife and beyond. There are so many other bloggers doing a much better job than we could ever hope to. If you’re looking for fashion inspiration we suggest the wonderful Midlifechic, Not Dressed As Lamb and the Senior Style Bible.

If you’d like to meet other midlifers and take part in our online community please join our private Facebook group, The Flock. And sign up for our free updates if you haven’t already.

Welcome! If there’s anything else you’d like to see here or you’d like to contribute, please get in touch at info at

About sugarlumps and gardens!

At the Mutton Club, we’re passionate about raising awareness and discussion of perimenopause and menopause. Part of that is sharing our content on various social media platforms. We’re increasingly doing advertising on these platforms as well, to raise awareness, but we’ve come a cropper with Facebook. That’s because we call a spade a spade, and talk about loss of libido and vaginal dryness as potential symptoms of menopause.

“Libido enhancing products or services” are not allowed to be advertised on Facebook. Even if it’s only dietary advice we’re giving! The mere mention of the word libido gets the Facebook advertising team having their own hot flushes! So rather than be censored by Facebook,  we decided to get creative and censor ourselves.

So if you’re reading an article that mentions sugarlumps or lady gardens it’s probably a post we’ve advertised on Facebook and have edited accordingly. For sugarlumps, read libido and for lady garden, read vagina 🙂